Thank you guys as i said im completly new but i am willing to learn, would it be best for me to learn c# or c++ first because most game companies i see taking on people and they ask for c++ knowlege and java based but at the moment i just want to learn basic scripting and so on so im not sure what language to learn first :/

If you want to get up and going quicker and easier go with c# or java, I would say c# so that you can also use c# as a scripting language with the Unity engine. Unity/C# combo is a very popular one these days and I can point you to some resources for this, they are not free but the price is unbeatable for this kind of education.

http://www.digitaltutors.com/subject/game-development-programming-tutorials

http://www.3dbuzz.com/training/topic/c-sharp?resetFilters=True

thank you guys you have all been helpfull i am learning and using c# as i am writing this lol, thanks especially to inuyashakagome16 i think is how you spell it :/ for that rb whitaker's link i found it incredibly helpfull but still nothing on how to make menus and things? :/ but you have all been fantastic help to me and if you do have any knowlege on how to make a menu i would most appreciate it as that is my first step in making my game. once agian thank you and i hope i can one day show you (when im more experienced) some of the work i will create big thank you to you guys please continue being a big help to poeple

That Super Mario link has 3 tutorials. One of the tutorials is how to make a menu :)