So for a few years now I've been kicking around ideas and talking about how I'm going to create this game idea, and I've decided that if I wait any longer I probably won't do it at all. I've done a fair amount of research into some of the "popular" engines, libraries, frameworks, etc. and I've all but decided to go with C# and SlimDX. But, before I finally jump in with both feet, I wanted to see what some others have used and/or started with and get one last round of second opinions and input.
I've been writing software in a variety of languages (primarily C/C++ and Java, though unfortunately as of late, PHP and JS) for almost 20 years, so the design and programming aspects aren't going to be a (huge) hurdle -- though I am more rusty with C++ than I'd like to admit. I've also played with XNA and HLSL a bit and wrote a particle system that could kick out 2m particles before dropping below 60fps on what was modest hardware a few years back, but that's about it.
I've briefly looked at a few of the offerings out there after realizing XNA is no longer supported, but so far none have really grabbed my attention. Unity seems to be the current hotness, but it looks and feels too much like a Flash player/editor for my tastes -- I generally prefer to be as close to the metal as possible without making things overly tedious, and engines like Unity have a tendency to sacrifice that fine-grained control for "easier" higher-level logic and a wider breadth of support/coverage. C# and Java seem to be nice compromises in that regard, which is what steered me to the platform on which I've decided.
So, that's a bit about where I'm at. Any advice, recommendations, pitfalls to avoid, horror stories, etc. would be welcome.