Have you ever had the feeling that you just can't communicate clearly with someone else? Or you lose your peers' attention?

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14 comments, last by Dynamo_Maestro 10 years, 4 months ago

Happens all the time. Us folks, technical people, tend to get looked down upon in Western societies, where intelligence is negatively branded as socially-awkward nerds. Thoughtful discussions of ideas are boring.

Throughout my life, I have learned how to communicate to the rest of world, not by learning how to explain technical stuff to them, but by actually talking about things they want to talk about. You know, the popular TV show you have been watching, what your dog did last night, how lunch tasted funny, that you met celebrity X the other day, that store Y is having 50% sale.

Although, I still can't help but ponder how people are taking so much interest in trivial things. LOLing at collections of yo mama jokes on YouTube, and how people can be so passionately talk about Miley Cyrus and the Kardashians is beyond me.

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Although, I still can't help but ponder how people are taking so much interest in trivial things.


This is how I feel about games like FarmVille. How could people be so entertained by a game that's essentially just waiting for time to pass? People have VASTLY different things that they consider interesting or boring that can seem completely alien to others.

Throughout my life, I have learned how to communicate to the rest of world, not by learning how to explain technical stuff to them, but by actually talking about things they want to talk about. You know, the popular TV show you have been watching, what your dog did last night, how lunch tasted funny, that you met celebrity X the other day, that store Y is having 50% sale.

Although, I still can't help but ponder how people are taking so much interest in trivial things. LOLing at collections of yo mama jokes on YouTube, and how people can be so passionately talk about Miley Cyrus and the Kardashians is beyond me.

Why do you want to communicate with people like that? What drives you to them? While I don't particularly agree with your first comment as I feel people with city lifestyles especially in massive cities (though I have only lived in a few) are ermm very open to 'technical' discussions; I do 100% agree with the quoted above.

I will spare details about my personal life but I think it would be invaluable to hear what drives you towards those types of people in the first place.

I experience the feeling all the time, and not only about technical stuff, but everything. Even in writing (like here on the forums).

The base of the problem is that I can't even understand my own thinking. It's hard to express...

Maybe I should read more, maybe it's some disorder, or maybe that's normal but most people don't realise it because they don't listen to each other too carefully anyway.

EDIT: my overcoming of the problem is sweeping it under the carpet. Communication is overrated anyway... In reality, it's mostly just a time passing activity, and that time can be spend on more interesting things.

Throughout my life, I have learned how to communicate to the rest of world, not by learning how to explain technical stuff to them, but by actually talking about things they want to talk about. You know, the popular TV show you have been watching, what your dog did last night, how lunch tasted funny, that you met celebrity X the other day, that store Y is having 50% sale.

Although, I still can't help but ponder how people are taking so much interest in trivial things. LOLing at collections of yo mama jokes on YouTube, and how people can be so passionately talk about Miley Cyrus and the Kardashians is beyond me.

Why do you want to communicate with people like that? What drives you to them? While I don't particularly agree with your first comment as I feel people with city lifestyles especially in massive cities (though I have only lived in a few) are ermm very open to 'technical' discussions; I do 100% agree with the quoted above.

I will spare details about my personal life but I think it would be invaluable to hear what drives you towards those types of people in the first place.

They don't attract me. I love learning new things, and get exposed to new stuff and places. I have taken interest in other things in life beside programming. When you do other things outside of programming, you will meet with various types of people. The diversity is interesting, but the people don't interest me enough that I can build deeper connection with them. So the activities are what brought us together in the first place.

Throughout my life, I have learned how to communicate to the rest of world, not by learning how to explain technical stuff to them, but by actually talking about things they want to talk about. You know, the popular TV show you have been watching, what your dog did last night, how lunch tasted funny, that you met celebrity X the other day, that store Y is having 50% sale.

Although, I still can't help but ponder how people are taking so much interest in trivial things. LOLing at collections of yo mama jokes on YouTube, and how people can be so passionately talk about Miley Cyrus and the Kardashians is beyond me.

Why do you want to communicate with people like that? What drives you to them? While I don't particularly agree with your first comment as I feel people with city lifestyles especially in massive cities (though I have only lived in a few) are ermm very open to 'technical' discussions; I do 100% agree with the quoted above.

I will spare details about my personal life but I think it would be invaluable to hear what drives you towards those types of people in the first place.

They don't attract me. I love learning new things, and get exposed to new stuff and places. I have taken interest in other things in life beside programming. When you do other things outside of programming, you will meet with various types of people. The diversity is interesting, but the people don't interest me enough that I can build deeper connection with them. So the activities are what brought us together in the first place.

Don't you feel less and less interested in meeting new people after a while, I mean sure the diversity is interesting as you say but after a while don't you suddenly see social effort as ermm pointless as the connection is 'generic' in a sense.

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