Where I live, respect is something that you give to people by default until they have proven themselves unworthy of respect. It is disrespect that is earned. If you don't respect me when I've done nothing to earn your disrespect, then I would say that you are being an asshole.
Disrespect != Being an Asshole.
If I meet someone for the first time, they don't have my respect. I treat them neutrally. If you expect me to respect you when we don't know each other, that's when I start disrespecting you, because you would be the asshole in that situation.