Drop your project for your own sake and for the sake of the others working with you. It is not fair to them that their hard work go to waste just because their programmer (you) has no clue how to program but just decided to jump into the deep end foolishly thinking he could learn to fly before learning to walk.
But the advice on how to learn programming remains constant. You still need to start with small projects and work your way up.
Listen to her. She knows what she's talking about.