I finally decided to actually do something about my lack of (project and code) design skills, so at the suggestion of several people here and elsehwere I've ordered:
Design Patterns
Modern C++ Design
Code Complete, Second Edition

Hopefully those will get me started in the right direction (if not further)
I now have 5-9 business days to finish reading the 10 RPG books I recently bought, plus those two asimov books that I just picked up and that other ... =-/