im doing sdl and i want to know about maybe learning to use SDL_Net for sockets and stuff or maybe actual hard coded kind... im using c++ so if anyone might have some decent tutorials much would be apprecieated

I've heard Beej's Guide to Network Programming is good. It looks pretty comprehensive. Eventually I'll go through it myself.

Yep. Its very good. It shows how to use the BSD socket interface that comes with the winsock.h header.
If you are on a win32 system you need to call WSAStartup(...) once, typically at the beginning of main (before using any socket calls), and WSAShutdown() at the end.
This socket interface is kinda old (c-style) and low level.
Im not familiar with the SDL_Net interface, but I guess it is a higher level interface, and probably easier to get used to.