Using osx, emacs and sfml.

How do I link the sfml libraries (not sure of the file type, osx just says they're executables, but doesn't say dll or anything) when they are just lying in some folder. I don't want to install the sfml files to some random place and have it magically work with xcode or anything. I want to use emacs and a makefile and I want to put the libraries wherever I want and not edit any path variables.

Also, is there any tutorial about linking in C++ so I could understand these strange incantations that I need to type?