but I don't think it's right to punish someone for taking mature and pre-emptive steps to avoid themselves making mistakes.
I don't think he was being mature. His wife caught him making inappropriate texts and pretty much forced him to fire her. Again, I sympathize with the guy. But she was wrongfully fired, IMO.
That's like saying a bully's parents forcing him to apologize isn't a good thing because the bully would apologize on his own. Either that or saying the bully continuing to beat up kids on the playground is better than him apologizing at all.
No it isn't. And you're arguing something different than what I'm saying. You claimed that he took mature steps. I'm saying he wasn't mature. It wasn't
his decision. It was his wife's, for the most part. If he took those steps before his wife caught him and the pastor got involved then I would be more inclined to agree with you. And he isn't a child who doesn't know better. He's a 50 year old man, who knew what he was doing was wrong and made the decision to continue.
If we lived in a world where people were capable of being able to change themselves in a day, I might be inclined to empathize with her a little more, but as far as I'm concerned he decided, probably with more than a little push from his wife, to separate himself from a situation that put his family and business in jeopardy.
Now you're just making excuses for him. I've read 3 articles on the issue and every article says that he was the originator, instigator, and aggressor in this situation. He was saying and texting explicit comments, not her. He put his family and
maybe his business in jeopardy, not her. He could have easily kept his loins in check and not have done what he was doing. This is a pure and simple case of passion overriding/overwhelming reason. And it's on the dentist, not her. They've working together for 10 years without incident and now suddenly he has his sex drive, she gets fired.
As I said in the OP, I sympathize with the guy. Sometimes people let their hormones get the best of them. He didn't want ruin his marriage but his loins were telling him something else. But nothing that I've read puts her in the wrong.