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 sprintf(msg, "~file~%s~%lu", szFileTitle, dwFileSize);//my command
 MessageBox(hMainWnd, msg, "send test", MB_OK);
 nRet = send(mainsock, msg, strlen(msg), 0);
//======================================================================
/*
later i revc() it
*/
//======================================================================
if(!strcmp(kom, "file")) //file comming
      {
       //show string!!!
       MessageBox(hMainWnd, msg, "recieved", MB_OK);
       //extract name and length
       i+=1;//skip tilde after the kommand
       int p=0;
       while(msg!='~')
       {
        fName = msg;
        ++p;
        ++i;
       }
       fName = '\0';
       
       char strDW[100]= " +";//MSDN says atol() need it
       p=2;
       while(msg!='\0')
       {
        strDW = msg;
        ++p;
        ++i;
       }
       strDW = '\0';
       
       dwFileSz = atol(strDW);
       //sscanf(strDW, "%lu", &dwFileSz);
       //dwFileSz = ntohl(dwFileSz);
       
       //accept file prompt
       sprintf(strDW, "%s is sending you file: %s %luB big.\r\n \ Do you accept?", remote_name, fName, dwFileSz);
       ret = MessageBox(hMainWnd, strDW, 
                      "File comming", MB_YESNO | MB_ICONQUESTION);
//==========================================================================